Bringing a rescue dog home is often painted as a joyful, instant happily-ever-after.
But for many dog moms, the reality looks very different.
Your new dog won’t settle.
Won’t eat.
Won’t relax.
Won’t eat.
Won’t relax.
Behaviors you weren’t expecting begin to show up.
And quietly, you wonder: Am I doing something wrong?
If that’s you, take a deep breath.
You’re not failing — your rescue dog is decompressing.
You’re not failing — your rescue dog is decompressing.
What Decompression Really Means
Most rescue dogs come from environments filled with stress, unpredictability, and loss of control. Even if their past is unknown, their nervous system remembers instability.
When they arrive in your home, their body doesn’t immediately recognize safety. Instead, it releases cortisol — the stress hormone — to stay alert and prepared for survival.
This is where the commonly shared 3-3-3 rule can help you understand what’s happening.
The 3-3-3 Rule Explained
The First 3 Days:
Your dog may seem shut down, withdrawn, restless, or overly clingy. This is survival mode. Everything is new, and their brain is simply trying to cope.
Your dog may seem shut down, withdrawn, restless, or overly clingy. This is survival mode. Everything is new, and their brain is simply trying to cope.
The First 3 Weeks:
This is often the hardest stage. As cortisol begins to drop, emotions rise. Behaviors, fears, and sensitivities may appear or intensify. This is sometimes called a cortisol crash, and while it feels alarming, it’s actually a sign that your dog is starting to feel safe enough to express themselves.
This is often the hardest stage. As cortisol begins to drop, emotions rise. Behaviors, fears, and sensitivities may appear or intensify. This is sometimes called a cortisol crash, and while it feels alarming, it’s actually a sign that your dog is starting to feel safe enough to express themselves.
The First 3 Months:
Trust begins to form. Routines feel more predictable. Your dog slowly shows who they truly are beneath survival instincts.
Trust begins to form. Routines feel more predictable. Your dog slowly shows who they truly are beneath survival instincts.
Why It Can Feel Like Things Are Getting Worse
Here’s the truth most people don’t say:
Healing can look messy before it looks peaceful.
Healing can look messy before it looks peaceful.
Decompression is not linear. Progress isn’t measured by obedience or perfection — it’s measured by safety, consistency, and patience.
One helpful way to support your dog during this season is learning how they naturally communicate and receive love. Many rescue behaviors soften when we meet dogs emotionally, not just behaviorally.
That’s why I created the Love Signals™ Quiz — a quick, gentle tool to help you understand how your dog is trying to connect with you, especially during decompression.
A Faith-Filled Reminder
God did not place this dog in your life by accident.
Not the timing.
Not the challenges.
And not you.
Not the timing.
Not the challenges.
And not you.
You weren’t chosen because you’re perfect — you were chosen because you’re safe.
Slow is not wrong.
Quiet is not broken.
And healing takes time.
Quiet is not broken.
And healing takes time.
💛 Need support during this season?
You don’t have to walk this journey alone.
You don’t have to walk this journey alone.
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